Surviving a Suicide Loss  |  Resource and Healing Guide
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side) for the duration of the holiday meal or event; the glowing 
flame acts as a quiet reminder of those who are missing
Above all, bear in mind that there is no “right” way to handle 
holidays, anniversaries, or birthdays. You and your family may 
decide to try several different approaches before finding one that 
feels best for you.
For Your Friends
When friends ask how they can help, you 
might want to share some of the examples 
in this section. You can download a list of 
ways your friends can help show support at 
afsp.org/FriendSupportAfterLoss.
When there has been a death of a loved one by suicide, loss 
survivors will likely experience a depth and range of feelings. 
It is important to honor and respect the needs of the loss survivors 
in the days, weeks, and months following the suicide. Often you 
may feel helpless. These guidelines help you understand what 
may be comforting to the family. However, before you assume 
responsibilities, it’s important to ask suicide loss survivors whether 
they need your help. 
Some loss survivors gain added strength from performing many 
of the responsibilities noted below, while others may want to rely 
on friends or family for support and guidance. 
Since recently bereaved people may have trouble concentrating 
or making decisions, instead of simply asking “How can I help?”, 
you might try asking if you can help with specific tasks, like 
babysitting, dog walking, grocery shopping, cleaning the house, 
watering the lawn, or organizing paperwork.

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